10/20/10: The Day We Unite Against Bullying
Today, in support of the message "The End of Bullying Begins with Me" being shouted from coast to coast, I gave my classes the following assignment.
They could write any comment that came to mind. I had to share them here for your all... I copied them just like they wrote them.
I was blown away by the responses. They are touching and sincere and honest, and they remind me why I love teaching middle school. The responses give me hope for the future. Stick to your convictions, kids. You can change things!
Orange post-it notes (I have been bullied or I know someone who has been bullied):
* I do not want my family to get bullied.
* It is not funny to be bullied and people should not do it.
* This year I saw a bit of one of my closest friends being bullied. I wish I had done something.
* If you feelings are getting hurt, it is NOT tattle-tailing.
* I've been bullied before, and it hurt. I don't think anyone should have to go through that pain.
* Racist stuff
* I do not like seeing buling
* Bulling is a horrible thing to do. No child should have to endure being bullyed. Mentaly or physicaly it's a horrible thing.
* I don't think people should threaten people. Bullied 4 times.
* I think that people should put themselves in other people's shoes
* I have been called fat and short before right in front of a teacher and they didn't do anything about it.
* I've been bullied and I've seen my friends being bullied. It's not right at all. Bullied 3 times.
* No one should be phisically bullied or mentally. They both hurt. Inside and out.
* One time 4 boys surrounded me and started pushing, kicking, and punching me. It wasn't fun. I hope it doesn't happen to anyone else.
* If you don't like to be called it yourself don't say it to someone else!
* Take a stand for a bullied person
* Blend in with the crowd.
* I see it but don't stop it. Even though I should.
* Making others feel bad will only make you feel worse. It won't make you popular, or cool. Just don't - it hurts
* Getting an adult is the best thing to do
* It's also an action sometimes. Not words!
* Bullying should not go to the extreme like forming a gang and kicking, hiting, shoving.
* There is alot of bullying in FMS and I sometimes bully and I know its wrong
* It happened to them. I won't let it happen again.
Pink post-it notes (I promise to be kinder, more aware, and more respectful of how my behavior affects others):
* Sometimes, people hurt my feelings without meaning to, and realized I do the same thing sometimes.
* this alone can fully stop bullying
* I promise to not bully anymore. I will try to stop other people around me too.
* I will try to keep watch of my actions around people
* Your actions can affect, so I will be nicer!
* Bullying is mean, rude and makes people unhappy. :(
* I will not be not nice to my friends
* I will help people who are being bullied. I will also do what I can to be nicer to people
* Sometimes we bully without realizing it.
* I am a little harsh at times, but I promise to think before I speak.
* I sometimes bully myself and others, but not often.
* I have bullied people before. When I get mad I yell at them. I'm going to try to do better on that.
* I promise to help someone who is being bullied
* I will watch what I saw and do more now.
* I promise to be kinder or more respectful to people except the one who are asking for it.
* I will be kinder in everything I do. I will also help other that can't get an answer on a question
* I'll watch for bullying mor
* Sometimes my friends and I make fun of the girls who make fun of us. Whenever we would do this, I would think, "How am I any better than them by doing this?"
* If everybody does this there wouldn't be any more bullying
* I promise to be nicer and to not make rude jokes/comments.
* I wish bullying would stop in all schools. Life would be a lot easier for some kids
* I think bullying is very bad. I don't think people should do it.
* I promise to be nicer to people
* I call people names sometimes and I guess I never realized what I was doing was bullying too.
* To be respectful and to be more aware is to be a better person all the time. OH YEAH!
* Bullying is wrong
* Sometimes I do bully people but NOT on purpose I'm going to be more careful
* It's true, weve all been bullied. Some have it worse. They don't tell us that.
* Bullying helps no one.
* I've been bullied before by high-schoolers on my bus. I've also bullied people, which was a huge mistake.
* Bullying is a bad things. I've bullied before and been bullied
* Bullying need to stop no body likes it
* I will be nice.
* I shall become as kind as possible. I will treat others well and use my respect.
* I think some bullys aren't aware of the pain they cause
Blue post-it notes (I promise to take a stand to help someone who is being bullied):
* I'm not going to let anyone be bullied. Even if it is a small matter. I will stand up for what I believe in.
* I will stop anyone bullying a friend, or someone I don't know
* Bullying isnt nice. It is pointless and stupid and makes you look mean.
* I will help people by telling someone or helping if they are being bullied
* If you don't help someone thats getting bullied, that means your a bully too!
* it not nice to bully
* I promise to help stop bullying
* I've seen people on the bus fighting and cussing.
* If someone is being bullied I'll stand up for them.
* I will stand up for anyone being bullied
* Bullying is bad!!
* I can't stand to watch someone be bullied
* I see people getting bullied al the time. It never stops!
* I will never beat my dog ever. Even though I've never had before
* I'll defend someone even if it's not the popular thing to do.
* I think bulling is a very stupid thing. If you don't like someone, just don't talk to them
* I promise to do this or my name isent Bob
* I PROMISE TO STAND UP AND HELP SOMEONE WHO IS BEING BULLIED
* Bullying needs to stop. It doesn't benifit anybody
* I think bullying is hurtful.
* When I walk down the hall I see people closing peoples lockers!
* I'm not usually bullied, but I hear people talking behind one specific friend of mine's back. I will take a stand.
* Taking a stand is very effective
* I try to stick up for everyone
* I think that everybody should take a stand if someone is being bullied
* Bulling is unexceptible
* I have seen bulling and I want to help stop it.
* I will take a stand because everybody has been there and it should be stopped People are killing themselves because of this.
After they wrote, I shared my feelings and thoughts. I told them about the Pacer Center's Day to Unite Against Bullying, we talked about why people bully or stay silent, and we talked about what they could do if they saw bullying happening around them.
The responses above are not perfect, in any sense, but the majority were so positive. I know it's easy to write what the teacher wants to hear one day in class, but I hope all these kids will take a little of today with them. It only takes a spark...